Stress can come in many forms for young children and some we think should not affect children but they do. As a child I grew up in a two parent home until I was around six years old. My parents divorced when I was young and my mother raised me and my other three siblings, but my father was always there. Even though my mother had custody of us he would get us every other weekend and holidays like he was suppose to and was at every event for us. Not having both of my parents under one roof was kind of stressful because there would be times that I would want them both with me. My oldest brother took it hard because he wanted my dad around. He started having low performance in school and becoming rebellious. He received counseling and love and support from both of my parents and became strong again.Overall, I believe I had a great childhood and loving parents that did everything in the world to make sure I was never without.
I understand that in today's society alot of children are not that fortunate. Divorce affects children in so many ways. Especially if the mother or father abandons the child with the marriage. Divorce has emotional, physical, and long term effects on children. Below I listed an example of each emotional, physical, and long term effect.
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Children Divorce Statistics. Retrieved from http://www.children-and-divorce.com/children-divorce-statistics.html. on June 1, 2013.
Great post Shonda. I like how you were able to use your personal experience to bring out some of the possible results of divorce as well as the statistics. Of course we know that these concerns do not always affect every child because sometimes even when a family has gone through something of that sort, with the correct support, they will , as you did, turn out just fine. But it is quite interesting to see the insight on how it affects some people.
ReplyDeleteI am now divorced for eight years. When I filled for divorce, my daughter was one year old. For the first three years after the divorce, my daughter and I had a very difficult time. My daughter used to cry almost every night and I lived with severe depression. She did not know anything about our family situation, but she understood enough to feel insecure of her environment. I finally had to seek help from a therapist. My ex-husband and I decided to be friends in an effort to help our daughter’s development. We wanted our daughter to be healthy for both physical and mental. Since my ex- husband was family counselor and I work in childhood field, we understand about the effects of divorce on children.
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